My Story in Hélène T. Stelian's The Next Act for Women

My Story in Hélène T. Stelian's The Next Act for Women

I'm thrilled to share my story in Hélène Tragos Stelian's blog, the Next Act for Women. Her blog is full of inspiring stories of women's transformation in mid life. Check out the full interview below:

The desire to be fully present with and for her children was the catalyst for Darby Bonomi, PhD to close her psychology practice of over 20 years and embark on a new path. Now, as her kids are older and more independent, Darby has combined her passion for horses and the equestrian sports with her background in psychology to become a performance consultant to equestrians and their families.

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On Course with Junior Rider Gracey Hensley

On Course with Junior Rider Gracey Hensley

I love to learn from different people and see things from various vantage points.  I find that everyone--young or old--has something to teach me and something to offer to the world.  One of the most gratifying things about my job is that I get to help people reconnect with their own gifts, from which they have become disconnected.  I am always curious how riders of all ages and levels of experience fuel their performance, keep a balanced perspective and continue to grow as they pursue their passion and navigate the ups and downs of the show world. 

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Say Good bye to Fear and Welcome Back Joy

Say Good bye to Fear and Welcome Back Joy

My blog on making friends with fear touched a nerve.  I heard from many riders about how they feel fear, anxiety, and even trepidation going into not only their show rounds but also their lessons at home. It’s clear that we as a group are very gritty and determined.  Nonetheless, this question presents itself: if we are pursuing our passion, why don’t we lead with joy more of the time?  

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Parenting Your Rider - Keeping the Big Picture in Mind

Parenting Your Rider - Keeping the Big Picture in Mind

Does our sport create tension between you and your rider? Do your worries sometimes interfere with your rider’s ability to focus?  Parenting a competitive equestrian is tricky; I know from personal experience. I hope you’ll join me in conversation as we explore this topic.  Please let me know if I can help you get clarity on some of these issues in your own family.  Parents are my clients too.

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Riding Scared

Riding Scared

I used to ride scared. I still do sometimes, but now I’ve made better friends with fear. Not perfect friends, mind you, but better friends. After all these years, we’re still getting to know each other. Most of the riders who come to me for help are wrestling with some form of fear: going too fast, jumping too high, falling off, missing a distance, going off course, not being perfect

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Looking for a Horse? 5 Things to Consider

Looking for a Horse? 5 Things to Consider

Investing in a horse of your own is tremendously exciting!  For most of us, it's also a big financial commitment.  Even if the initial cost of the horse is modest, the ongoing upkeep in terms of board, training, veterinary, and farrier expenses is substantial.  Remember it costs as much to keep a cheap horse as it does an expensive horse…and even more expensive to keep a lame horse!  Just as with any investment, be sure to do your due diligence and hire the right experts to guide you.

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It's All About Winning...Right?

It's All About Winning...Right?

A few months ago, I attended a year end medal finals with my youngest daughter.  Similar to all medal finals, it’s a big deal.  Riders have worked all year and are eager to display their well honed skills.  Trainers are amped up too, of course.  There is a lot of pressure not only because it’s the finals, but also because there is an age limit.  For a lot of riders, this will be their last chance to grab this particular win.  Hence, the pressure is on. 

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Ready to ride?

Ready to ride?

I think I speak for most amateur and junior riders:  we don’t get nearly enough time with our horses!  Barn time is wedged between work, school and family commitments.  Many riders not-so-jokingly refer to barn time as their ‘therapy.’  Why is that?  I think it’s because horses invite us—really require us—to leave behind all the busy-ness of our lives and be right there with them.

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New Year, New View, New Path

New Year, New View, New Path

I’m not a big believer in New Year’s resolutions.  I aim to live each day to its fullest and bring my best self to every decision and moment. Nonetheless, the turn of the calendar offers us an invitation to step back and reflect on where we’ve been and where we want to go. For me, 2017 served up plenty of change and with that change an opportunity to realign my priorities and my path for 2018.

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