Have you fallen off your horse and hurt yourself? Did you sustain injuries not only to your body but also to your psyche? In our career as equestrians, most of us will experience a nasty fall or two. When a young rider tumbled off at the IEA Nationals last year, the announcer said matter-of-factly, ‘well, the only riders who don’t fall are those who don’t ride.’ True words.Read More
Recently one of my clients exclaimed, “maybe I’m just too old to be doing this.” This person is not old by any means; her comment emerged from her sense of guilt for enjoying the horses so much and wanting to continue to show ‘at her age.’ I wanted to exclaim—what, too old? Are you kidding me? (She’s at least a decade younger than I am!)Read More
Recently, I heard someone remark that a particular junior rider had ‘wonderfully supportive’ parents. The comment made me pause and think—what does it mean to be ‘a supportive parent’ in the horse world? Sometimes this phrase is used to mean that parents are financially generous. Those gifts are one kind of support, yet there are other essential aspects of parental support that often go unacknowledged.
Sometimes saying ‘no’ is the most supportive thing you can do.Read More
My blog on making friends with fear touched a nerve. I heard from many riders about how they feel fear, anxiety, and even trepidation going into not only their show rounds but also their lessons at home. It’s clear that we as a group are very gritty and determined. Nonetheless, this question presents itself: if we are pursuing our passion, why don’t we lead with joy more of the time?Read More
Does our sport create tension between you and your rider? Do your worries sometimes interfere with your rider’s ability to focus? Parenting a competitive equestrian is tricky; I know from personal experience. I hope you’ll join me in conversation as we explore this topic. Please let me know if I can help you get clarity on some of these issues in your own family. Parents are my clients too.Read More
I used to ride scared. I still do sometimes, but now I’ve made better friends with fear. Not perfect friends, mind you, but better friends. After all these years, we’re still getting to know each other. Most of the riders who come to me for help are wrestling with some form of fear: going too fast, jumping too high, falling off, missing a distance, going off course, not being perfect.Read More
I think I speak for most amateur and junior riders: we don’t get nearly enough time with our horses! Barn time is wedged between work, school and family commitments. Many riders not-so-jokingly refer to barn time as their ‘therapy.’ Why is that? I think it’s because horses invite us—really require us—to leave behind all the busy-ness of our lives and be right there with them.Read More